Sunday, January 28, 2007

Poppies

sunset-poppies.jpgThe following was origianlly a comment on this post. The comment was deleted by the moderator. She then left this comment on my blog.

What the hell did you expect. Its not like you adopted a dog that you can just take back to the kenel. ITS A HUMAN BEING! And dont you come at me with not knowing anything about adoption because I have 27 years of experiance. You are a failure as a mother and human being. Theres a special place in hell for people like you.

This isnt me being my online angry devils advocate self that youve grown to love on the internet. This is pure, unadulterated hate.

8 comments:

teresa said...

it's interesting that she could handle zac's comment and went on to make it seem cutesy.

i think being told flat out what she probably feels herself is too hard to face and to know other people feel that way is unbearable.

i SiN said...

That child is better off without that crazy, heartless woman as a mother. She'd rather adopt a damn dog to make herself feel better about herself than to take time to care for and give what it takes to raise a little girl shechose.

Tracy. Those 11 reasons you gave for taking your child back to the pound is the most retarded things I have ever heard. It was your job to be patient with her. Love her unconditionally. To give her the guidance she needed to able herself to function normally in her life. If god gave you a downs baby, would you have opted for the abortion? I've never adopted a child and I wouldn't know how to react if I was given like, a demon child or something but I do know that a child’s behavior is learned and is easily fixed if you have the BALLS to step up and be a mother.

stemshul said...

NiSi is back on my good side now! BFF!

Traci B said...

You and your crew are all angry, hateful, and immature and have been since the first day I stumbled across your blogs.. and I thought it was a funny little act to buy you laughs at first. Surely no one could be that mean for no apparent reason whatsoever...
Your anger at the world is unhealthy and just plain wacko.
I deleted your comment and not Zac's because he at least had SOME intelligence and validity whereas you are idiotic, rude, unnecessarily vulgar, and lacking any reasonable argument.
The guy with nothing better to do than play video games is condemning ME for being selfish and a bitch when it is you who seems to lack a life and have no revere for humanity or concern for any credible feelings or relationships whatsoever... Perhaps you got a bit out of sorts over a subject a bit to close to home, SOMETHING definitely got in your crawl long ago and is seeping with nastiness- aimed at the world in general without discrimination.
I leave your little hate cult for good and pray your life finds some light and meaning.
Like the inept goof that you are, I am sure you are smiling and finding your goading very funny. Well, your comments are ridiculous, unfounded and altho you managed to rid me from your site (there is plenty of intelligent life out there to socialize with) ... I shall survive.:-)

Stemshul said...

First, let me state that I find it extremely hypocritical that you feel you can come on my blog and hurl insults at me (twice now) while deleting my comment on your blog mere minutes after I posted it.

My crew and I arent all that angry, hateful or immature. We choose the internets as a means of venting our frustrations and get upset when people blame innocent children for things that they cant control. Its not so much a "funny little act" as it is a release at the end of the day. When we get together we all laugh and have a good time. And its not insincere either. We genuinely enjoy one anothers company.

My comment may not have been necessary, certainly was vulgar and was not intended to be argumentative. It was not however, idiotic and rude. It was passionate and exactly what you needed to hear. You need to know that you failed that child. And you need to take that failure and learn from it. Then you need to take what youve learned and use it to be the best mother your boys could ever hope for. Being a mother is not about you. Its about the children. It is the single most important thing you will do in your life.

I dont have much more to do then play video games, its true. I recently moved 2000 miles across the country. I know 4 people in a 2 hour radius. When my wife and roommate are gone and I have the day off I play video games. I enjoy it.

Craw. The word is Craw. Dont try to psychoanalyze me. Im much more complicated then this little blog lets on.

Dont kid yourself. Youll be checking back. You cant get away. Youll need to know if were talking about you. You already checked one last time before going to bed last night to see if I responded to your comment.

i SiN said...

and pray for your own damn soul, woman!

katohater said...

in my anthropolology class today, we were discussing kinship and adoption came up. the professor was explaining how, when you adopt a child, you have a moral, ethical, economical, and social responsibility to raise that child as your own. i almost laughed out loud in class thinking: "only sometimes."

slipperyamoeba said...

Holy crap. Well, nothing helps a reactive attachment disorder kid like having his world disrupted several times in a row as an infant.

I work with kids who've spent a majority of their lives suffering through some level of deep trauma and probably 90 percent of the kids I work with on a daily basis have a reactive attachment of some magnitude.

I agree that it's a trying thing to deal with. I can pour my heart into my job and get close to nothing back in return. I can show love and respect, personally invest in their interests, and spend hours at a time talking with a kid, only to be attacked verbally the next day for no rational reason.

But even these kids who've suffered massively horrible events (neglect, abuse) for years at a time, if given enough connection start to show some goodness. It just takes time and patience. I can't imagine taking any one of them into my home and, knowing what they've gone through, subjecting them to anything similar to a traumatic event they've had in the past.

It's like owning a puppy. That little brat is going to pee everywhere, tear apart your shoes, wake you up all night with its whining. But show it love and make it through that rough phase and earn its trust and you've got a partner.

I don't know. It's hard to judge not knowing the whole situation (just read that one post), but clearly Traci B doesn't have enough self-awareness to know the right way to satisfy her own insecurities (need for a certain kind of love).

It's just sad that an infant had to suffer for it.